carmela:

“Long distance relationship is better than short distance relationship.”

I see people on Tumblr compare these two a lot and majority of them thinks that long distance relationships are way better than being with someone closer to you. Well, I beg to differ. 

First of all, a relationship is a relationship nonetheless. Second of all, why would one be better than the other? I guess you can say people in long distance relationships like the test. But let me tell you where the real test comes into place. Believe it or not, the real test in relationships doesn’t even come in until you guys start living with each other (or at least something close to that).

For example, how cranky he is when he’s lacking sleep. Or how willing he is to get up at 2 in the morning to make you Theraflu because you feel like shit. Or when you argue, yet you still sleep mad next to each other as opposed to hanging up the phone since she’s 2000 miles away anyways. “Let’s sleep on it & deal with the bullshit tomorrow” is probably easier than, “Damn, I hate your face right now, but I am still here, right next to you, hoping you’ll give in, but hope I’ll give in too”. You see, that’s just the gist of it if you really want to start talking about relationship’s test. 

Sure, it makes the trips to the airports or train stations more and more significant each time, the more you’re away from each other, the more you miss them. The butterflies in your stomach. But let me ask you this, have you ever been with somebody for four years and still feel the same feeling when you pull up to their driveway even though you just saw them yesterday?

When you love someone, distance and time is irrelevant. Hence, it doesn’t matter which one is better - long or short distance relationship. A relationship is a relationship. You say people in LDRs requires a whole lot of trust & commitment? Well, here’s a fun fact. If your significant other wants to cheat on you, regardless if you are 2000 miles away or 2 feet away, they’ll still do it with every chance they get. Shit, sad to say, I see it with some of my friends & even having a kid doesn’t stop them.

Long distance relationships are stressful, expensive and frustrating. But so are short distance relationship. Both requires a lot of work. Yet, we put up with it for our significant other, because we care & love them that much. Personally, I don’t see myself being in a long distance relationship. 

For me, seeing someone often is getting to know more and more of them. How they act around my family and friends, how they react to a certain situation when it arises. In these situations, you find out how reliable and dependable you both are for each other. Whether it’s you getting a flat tire in the middle of the day, or him losing his debit card & you are there to spot him ‘cause - well, it’s being there for each other.

It’s funny ‘cause I would never hear this come from someone who is a little older. As far as my talks with my older friends, we do have quite the same mentality about distance in relationships. And I guess it makes more and more sense as we grow up since I only see a lot of the younger ones who are really inlove with the idea of LDRs. To each their own, I guess.

So for the younger ones, all I can really say is that, you are still young and you shouldn’t be stressing yourself over somebody who is thousands and thousands of miles away. Thinking whether or not s/he’s faithful to you, or s/he’s doing the same shit with other people. Hang out with friends. Go out with people. Go to happy hour (Wait, I guess this doesn’t apply). It’s fun going to the movies, getting coffee & talking to people outside of Skype or talking on the phone, talking about saving up every dime you have for a plane ticket so just can spend a weekend together. Enjoy your life. 

And in time, when you meet that person, regardless if you are 10 miles or 1000 miles away from each other, it doesn’t really matter how often you see them. If they really interest you, distance and time doesn’t really matter. And everything just falls into place then. 

- Carmela David

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